Feel Good Every Day: a simple weekly habit that helps cultivate inner peace for life.

Today I’m sharing a simple, repeatable framework I use to feel good most days, even when plans fall apart, projects stall, or life throws the usual curveballs. Feeling better isn’t about pretending everything is great. It’s about building a steady inner state through repeated habits. What are those habits?

We start with what a good day looks like in real life for me, from there, I break it down, the process of creating good-day feeling, through 3-pillar lens you can use as a weekly compass: vitality, connection, and purpose. 

We also talk mindset and emotional regulation, why attention acts like a spotlight, and how CBT, ACT, and DBT-style tools can help you stop catastrophizing and start choosing a better lens. 

At the end I'll be sharing the core habit that makes everything else work and improve over time.

Download your free worksheet - a simple weekly reflection practice to help you find your wins, spot your drains, and apply the 80/20 to your joy and results.

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Transcript

0:08

Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Change Wired Podcast. My name is Angela Shorina. I'm your host, I'm your partner and guide in change, in personal and collective transformation, in learning more about, looking into, exploring, learning about, unlocking more of our human potential to create the most extraordinary life experiences and more positive in the world, more positive impact in the world around us. I'm also a certified, multiple certifications in health, in sleep, stress management, fitness, nutrition, executive coaching, recently self-actualization coaching, which is all about uh learning how to become everything that you can become in this life. And my personal passion and pursuit, guys, just since I was a kid, I've been fascinated with the untapped potential that keeps unfolding and evolving in us. And I've always been fascinated with this idea that our daily actions and habits and what we choose to do with our time can utterly, like in a mind-blowing way, transform where we start our lives. Like I myself, a girl from rural city in the middle of Russian Siberia, now living in South Africa, speaking, working with leaders from all over the world that have lived and worked in 15 countries, right? The choices we make, the decisions we make, how we decide to spend our time, that can be a mind-blowing transformation. And I feel like I'm yet to even tap even a little bit into what I can accomplish. And every day I wake up unsatisfied with the rate of that unfolding. I'm like, how can I be more? Not from a perspective like I'm missing out or I'm not enough, etc. But I feel that there is so much more potential in me. And every day I wake up and try to do my best to unfold it, to unlock it, to become everything I can be, because it's just so amazing to see the whole process and see and watch and observe your journey through life. If you choose the journey of growth, of transformation, of becoming more and more of who you were destined to be, with the seed of potential in each and every one of us.

The Simple Framework For Better Days

3:04

That being said, guys, today on this podcast, you're gonna learn a simple framework, a simple strategy that will allow you to feel good every day. Like no matter what stuff happens in our lives, in your day, today, tomorrow, yesterday, we all can have quite a good day every single day if we choose to do certain things. And you're gonna learn about what I've learned in uh almost 20 years of my coaching, working with hundreds of people all around the world. You know, you know, just patterns, and you see what people do when they feel the most fulfilled, when they have this beautiful mindset and emotional state every day, when they create magic in their lives and lives of others, you start seeing patterns. And then I read a lot of books and I interview people for my podcast and I listen to a lot of podcasts. So I try to feed my mind to the best of the best thinking in the world from all corners of the world, from different thought leaders and just leaders and business owners and just extraordinary creatives and people who build this beautiful life experiences. So by the end of this podcast, you learn how to cultivate that beautiful inner state, mindset, and your emotions. So again, no matter what happens in your life, you still feel pretty damn good about your life. And I always say that our life is nothing but a connect collection of days, one day at a time. And if we learn how to experience every single day, no matter what happens, feeling good inside, not like you know, pumped up and oh my god, this is the best thing ever. No, just feeling good, content, and satisfied, and maybe not happy, but just good that you're living this beautiful life experience instead of feeling like everything is pressuring you and you are stressed out of your mind. And no, I don't want you to meditate the whole day or become a monk of Zen or you know, reach some unreachable height of self-awareness actualization and just I don't know, being radiating this peacefulness all the time. But what I believe is possible uh from my experience and working with clients and observing other people is that you can cultivate a sense of well-being that you carry through all of your days again, no matter what happens in your days. So

Morning Routine That Works

5:43

let me start with a story in my blog. I write a blog every day, it's gonna be linked in the show notes today. So check it out if what you hear today resonates with you. I write every single day, and my inspiration is to be able to do that till the very last day of my life. And my blog is dedicated to the process of change, personal collective evolution, growth, expanding, and feeling, looking, doing our best. And I wrote a blog a few days ago about what allows me to feel good every day, like no matter what. So, reading you from the blog. Every day starts for me the same way: good sleep, the best I can get, a walk, however short, movement, a good breakfast, sunshine, when I can get it, breath work and priming, which is a Tony Robbins meditation, which consists of expressing gratitude for what you have, sending blessings to yourself and others, focusing on what I'm building, I'm inspired to create in my life, then writing or and some form of creation like recording this podcast, and then the rest of the day I fill in very mindfully with things that feel purposeful. People I care about, learning, exploring, making, creating things, good meals, music, uh, work, purposeful, work, meaningful work, time outside, goofing around, reading. I really love reading. Every day I make sure there is at least one thing I'm genuinely excited about. Like I wanna do this thing. Sometimes it's reading an interesting book or talking to an interesting person, or working or delivering uh this beautiful session to your client or a group of people, right? There are different things. But I try to put in my calendar every day something that I'm genuinely excited about, even though sometimes it's challenging and puts you in a state of excitement, a combination of anxiety and excitement, right? But something that excites my soul, my spirit, like my whole being, makes me feel alive.

3 Pillars of Good Days: Vitality Connection Purpose

7:55

Every day I also end with treating, even if it's just 10 minutes. Notebook LM, one of those AI agents, created this beautiful graphic for this blog, which has three pillars, three parts which make my good day happen, right? Vitality, connection, purpose. So vitality. Every day I make sure that I prioritize investing in my health, topping up my energy reserves from trying to and prioritizing good sleep, prioritizing good meals that I know work for me, and a balance based on science and based on research of healthy health maintenance through nutrition, listening to music, spending time outside, right? Connection, engaging with people I care about, whether that's my parents, my friends, a combination of all of them, also my community of like-minded people, clients I do work with. Take time for goofing around as well with them or yourself. That's also part of connection. And then purpose, work that fulfills, that feels purposeful, learning, exploring, making things, connecting to that, I don't know, red thread that makes your life feel like you're on purpose, like you have meaning, like you are important in this life, right? So that is the graphic that Notebook LM created for me to illustrate my my blog. But the point is, guys, good feeling, your well-being, it's a result of it's it's not random, it's a result of habits and routines that you cultivate.

Daily Well Being On Purpose

9:42

And what I've learned from many multiple resources is that a humans are biopsychosocial creatures, it is certain things are important for us to feel consistently good, they're not magic. You are like a car, a vehicle. And when you do the right things, when you fill those buckets of vitality or your health, your energy reserves, you're cultivating certain mindset and emotional regulation with feeding yourself metaphorically, meaning filling your day with the right things, connecting with the right people that give you energy, doing certain routines that allow your mind and your body and your spirit to feel good and meaningful and purposeful. When you do those things consistently, surprisingly, you start feeling well no matter what happens in your life, especially if you work on your mindset and you learn how to take perspective, and you learn that there are small things and big things, and we often catastrophize things for no good reason. And things that happen in life, we tell a lot of stories around that. And there is always a good side of the story and the bad side of the story, bad unquote unquote. This is the part of the story that makes us feel better, the part of the story that makes us feel not so good. And we are able to choose what to focus on in any given moment. There is always something good you can focus on, there is always something that makes you feel frustrated or agitated or some other you know negative feeling that you might carry through the day. It's up to you to choose what you focus on. Your attention is like a spotlight, and all of the things exist at the same time, and you can choose what to focus, your spotlight of attention and where your attention goes. That's what you think, what you feel, and that's how your day unfolds for you. Right? For the past two or three months, since I've gotten really consistent and deliberate about my routines, filling my days with what I know fills my cup mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, socially, something's really changed. It seemed like it's here to stay. Like, you know, a strong muscle if you keep showing up in the gym, it doesn't disappear. If you keep showing up, it keeps on giving. So the same what I'm learning is true for my mental state, for my emotional state, for my physical state, my spiritual state. When I invest things that work for me on a regular basis, things that well-being, that state of content and almost happiness and satisfaction, it stays like a plant that you keep watering that keeps growing. It's become surprisingly easy for me guys to smile and feel good every day. Even when things don't go right, when I get sick, when I get injured, when a client cancels, when a project stalls, when things I wanted to work out don't work out, when I wanted to get a job and I didn't, and when uh I wasn't good enough, you know, even when those things happen, I am able to lean into all the frustrations and learn from them what I can learn, and lean into things that don't work out and take perspective and say, hey, well, this didn't work out, maybe it wasn't meant to, and hey, if there is anything you can learn from that, you're gonna get another chance. And here is your chance to get better and improve. So the next time the chance comes around, you might be you better fit for it. But underneath all of that is that feeling of almost confidence that hey, everything is actually pretty damn good, and the world is as beautiful as it was a day before, a week before, as it always is, and there is always good you can be grateful for, and also the things that don't work out, that's just how life is. Not everything is supposed to work out, and things again, there are opportunities to learn, there are opportunities for you to work on your mindset and emotional regulation. But the point is, guys, the world hasn't changed. I have.

Change Your Lens Change Your Life

14:02

You know, there is this beautiful quote by Wayne Dyer, who is considered to be a spiritual teacher, but he also he's also a best-selling co-author. If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. It's kind of like I'm looking outside of my window, and the weather, the weather is quite gloomy. It's sort of raining, it's very cloudy and not so bright. But it feels very almost romantic and very nourishing and very peaceful. And it's not that the weather is good. A lot of people would look at it and like, oh, really not great weather, you know, and they feel frustrated. Whereas I feel almost uplifted because of that. And that is a demonstration of how when you cultivate a certain feeling and mindset in yourself, all the things that you look at will be reflected or looked through those glasses, those lenses that you cultivate inside of yourself. That is what it means. If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. And how do you change the way you look at things? You change yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally. And I think the biggest change in my habits recently, why I was able to stay that consistent with all of these new habits and uh stop doing habits that didn't work for me, whether that's mindset habits like catastrophizing things or being attached to things that don't work out, or thinking that you know I'm unlucky in some way, or being frustrated or angry or anxious, all of these feelings. I cultivated different mindset and emotional habits through a lot of self-work, you know, CBT techniques, ACT, DBT. I am a certified coach, so I get to learn all of these techniques and practice on myself before I practice it with clients.

Weekly Reflection

16:03

But the underlying habit or tool, and by the way, this tool is going to be available and linked as a worksheet in the show notes. So pick that up. Feel free to pick it up. It's absolutely free for you. The fundamental habit that allowed me to create more and more of this experience is reflection. So every week, Saturday or Sunday, I go through reflection. And reflection is looking back and asking yourself, sometimes it's a week, sometimes it's three months, sometimes it's a year. I do uh reflections every week, every day a little bit, and every three months, and every year, half a year, not so much, but every three months, yes. When you reflect and you look back at things and ask yourself these questions, like, okay, what were my biggest wins? What felt the best? What were my biggest challenges? How did I handle that? How did I look? How what can I learn from that? What is my 80-20, 20% of things that bring me 80% of joy or results? And how can I make more of that in my life? And what drained my time the most, or maybe maybe frustrated and created this not sort of very not the kind of mental internal state that I want to carry through my day? What made me what drained me energetically and mentally, spiritually, and how can I make less of it happen or change the way I look at those things so they don't bother me anymore? Reflection allows you to understand yourself better and better, and to start expanding things that work for you and shrinking things that don't work for you. And the more you do it, after a certain point, you won't have the things that don't make you feel, and you're gonna be carrying this beautiful inner space that no matter what day it is and what happens, you're still gonna feel quite amazing inside, and that inside feeling is all that matters when it comes to living a good life. So the reflection worksheet is in the show notes, something that I do weekly. And for today, what I want you to do is yes, do the reflection to start understanding yourself better because that is the biggest change that created this opportunity to feel really good. And I wasn't born like this at all. I went through a lot of mental and emotional struggle, so I know what it is on the other side, and I know what it is to be here, and I know the work that took to be here, feeling almost happy every single day. And again, my life is just full of problems, as everyone else has, and I don't have everything figured out, not at all, but but the internal state, I'm in control of that, and you are in control of that. And reflection allows you to create more of that state by designing your life, your what you do, how you design your calendar, who you connect with, what thoughts you allow in your mind on a regular basis. This reflection practice helps you to cultivate more and more of that and to shrink what doesn't work for you more and more and more. So the worksheet is in the show notes. Do reflection and then start every week adding something that makes your life feel better, makes you feel better in internally, physically, mentally, spiritually, and then at the same time shrinking more and more things that just don't work for you for the life experience you want to create. So that is the ongoing practice, and what will allow you to do this ongoing practice and scheduling those 20 minutes of reflection with the worksheet that is in the show notes, scheduling that reflection time on a regular weekly basis, and then see how that one habit will so magically start transforming your life into exactly what you want it to be. Thank you

Worksheet Share And Closing Challenge

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guys for tuning in. Thank you for listening. Don't forget to share this podcast episode with at least one other person who might need to have a little bit of joy and fulfillment and happiness that they can have every day. So share this podcast episode, share the worksheet that is linked in the show notes, and please rate review this podcast promoted in some way to reach more people, help me reach more people in the world so we all get a little bit happier because of the work we do every day. So thank you guys for doing this in advance. Means a world to me. And till next time, keep reflecting, keep growing the life that you want to live more of, and yeah, keep getting better and unlocking more of your potential.